Broken Can Be Beautiful
Broken can be beautiful. Does that sound strange to you? Do you believe that it's actually true or that I'm just trying to spin something? Initially, it sounded strange to me too, but it doesn't take more than a minute or two when I really think about what that...
Inside My Childhood War
It was October 16, 1996. I am 15 years old and sitting in an assembly at my high school chatting with my friends when the nurse finds me and tells me that my Mom is here and needs to talk to me. Meredith is dead.I hear my Mom’s words before I ever make it to the...
Here’s Why I Feel Comfortable Sharing My Story With You
Well..."comfortable" is the wrong word. Even simply writing the title of this article makes me acutely UNcomfortable...like I'm violating a very significant law of the Universe. I was trained, as most psychotherapists, that you do not disclose personal...
To Lose Our Shit…Or Not. That is the Question.
I did it!! I finally did it!! I responded the way that I wanted to - parented in a way that I feel good about - when my child was acting like a monster. It's a freakin' Christmas miracle. Let me set this up for you...So I don't know what hell...
You May Have Experienced Trauma (And Don’t Even Know It)
Sounds like a funny thing to say right? I mean, you would know if you experienced trauma. Right?? Not necessarily so.So let's start at the beginning. When I use the word "trauma" lots of things probably come to mind: war, rape, a tornado, a car...
The Most Effective Stress Reduction Technique EVER
Yes, I said it. The most effective stress reduction technique EVER. AND it's natural, easy and free. Don't believe me? Read on.Diaphragmatic breathing. What on earth is that, right?? It’s a fancy term for deep breathing using your...
I Ain’t Afraid of No Ghost! (Or Maybe I Am…)
We've been talking a lot about the monster within lately, when you feel like a monster and what happens inside your body and brain when you're feeling that way. And most of what those posts have discussed is the experience of being angry. Which is big....
The Monster Within Part II – Understanding Your Monster
Ok, we can agree on the fact that we all feeling like losing our sh*t every now and then and it's, by definition, can be quite ugly sometimes. I hope we can also agree on the fact that feeling like were losing our shit doesn't make us monsters, it simply makes...
The Monster Within…And How To Deal
*So let me properly set this up for you. My family and I are moving to a new house (and city) in a few weeks which, if you've moved especially, with young children, I don't have to tell you how stressful this is. My daughter went from being a 6 week old who slept...
“Enjoy Every Minute” – Major Parenting Myth Debunked
"Enjoy every minute". "It goes by all too quickly". "You'll want this time back". How many times have you heard it Mama? The sweet smiles and unsolicited advice you get from strangers probably on a daily basis if you have little ones. We...